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At the end of each year I complete an "inventory" in preparation of the year ahead. If you've been receiving my posts for at least a year this one page form may look familiar - except now we get to say goodbye to 2013 and set our sights on 2014. Click here for the one pager or on the homepage "Continue Reading" link. One of the most powerful questions for me has been "What else do you need to do or say to be complete with...?" One year this led to a very powerful communication I needed to make in order to move forward fresh into the new […] Continue Reading
Communication breakdowns happen all the time. Considering we are wired to respond to the beat of our own drummer, it's amazing we ever find ourselves making sense to one another. Often times you think you are tuned in but then something happens - an upset, a sense of confusion, hurt feelings – and it feels like the finger is being pointed at you. If you’re the “accused” or “wrong one,” the typical knee jerk response is to defend yourself. Surely, you have a logical clarification or explanation that you repeatedly put forth but ever notice […] Continue Reading
One of my clients immersed in the Personal Foundation Program is working on zapping her "Tolerations." Tolerations (when pluralized not an actually word) are those things we are "putting up with" – rather than handling. A toleration could be anything from your partner's bad breath to a messy desk that drives you crazy, to a client who doesn't pay on time – and millions of other things. The problem with tolerations is they suck the life out of you. Much more energy goes into avoiding or putting up with something that is gnawing at you rather […] Continue Reading
Lately there has been increased demand for personal coaching. That said, for any coaching endeavor to be effective, whether it is business or executive or life, it is going to get personal. When I entered Coach U and began my two year professional training, students were to complete a program called Personal Foundation, created by Thomas Leonard. Thomas Leonard was the founder of Coach U and considered the Father of Coaching. A brilliant conceptualist, Thomas applied his generous understanding of human nature to the creation of dozens […] Continue Reading
Yesterday “Bob” called in for his scheduled “Talk It Out” session. Procrastination and lack of focus was a recurring problem, he said. As a senior executive Bob felt unable to get started on a report for his boss that would take him 4 hours to accomplish. It was not a difficult task - for Bob it was a boring task complete with the kind of details or organizational thinking that would dull the brain and spirit of most “go-getters.” Ugh. Details. Reports. For many of us, this kind of task is where the rubber meets the road - and promptly has a […] Continue Reading
People in all levels of the professional (and personal) stratosphere have issues with self-esteem; some too much, some not enough. Low self-esteem appears as lack of confidence, fear, uncertainty, and difficulty making decisions. An overly confident person may come across as arrogant, impatient, and abrasive. A person with low self-esteem can be very accomplished but minimizes his or her successes. Recently I coached a well-paid creative director at a New York advertising agency who felt she lacked certain creative abilities and innovative […] Continue Reading
While a popular workshop I give called "Dealing with Difficult People" includes descriptions of typical difficult behavioral types, the thrust of the workshop serves to help participants discover their own hot buttons. Participants are often surprised to discover the workshop focus isn't on “Me good – coworker, family member, partner - bad.” True, some people are just plain difficult. They seem to be hard to get along with no matter what is going on. Some people even have a kind of radar for whose buttons they can push. Yet, have you ever […] Continue Reading