Circles of Personal Influence

The following comes from an email subscription I receive from "Better Conversations" written by Loren Ekroth. THE FIVE PEOPLE YOU MEET IN CONVERSATION Your old friends may be killing you. That is, killing your spirit, your creativity, your dreams. When I lived in Hawaii I learned a Japanese proverb that said "The nail that stands up highest gets pounded down." This is similar to the "crabs in the bucket" teaching story, remember? When one crab tries to climb out of the pail, other crabs pull him back down. We Become Like Our Closest […] Continue Reading

5 Tips for Dealing with Difficult People

While a popular workshop I give called "Dealing with Difficult People" includes descriptions of typical difficult behavioral types, the thrust of the workshop serves to help participants discover their own hot buttons. Participants are often surprised to discover the workshop focus isn't on “Me good – coworker, family member, partner - bad.” True, some people are just plain difficult. They seem to be hard to get along with no matter what is going on. Some people even have a kind of radar for whose buttons they can push. Yet, have you ever […] Continue Reading

Problem or Opportunity?

When my coaching clients submit their brief pre-meeting prep form, it includes the question: "What are the opportunities available to me right now?" In posing that question I am guiding them to see "challenges" they are facing (related to their coaching goals) as "opportunities" to grow professionally and personally. For example, […] Continue Reading